Weddings bring with them the freshness of new beginnings – flowers, colours, new clothes, new relatives, new excitement and a new sense of opportunity. They have a way of opening our hearts and uplifting our spirits.
People will be excited to share your day. They literally get a contact high off your love.
Why do you think everyone wants to line up to congratulate the bride and groom? Because they love you and have a special place for you in their hearts … and because they want a little whiff of wedding bliss!
It is a fairy-tale come to life.
Alas, these esteemed nuptial ceremonies don’t come easy.
The months leading up to the big day can be some of the most stressful and nerve-wracking a couple will experience, to the extent that the weak-hearted will have to call it off or rebel somehow as it presents the two with the perfect time to get a sneak peek of their significant other’s traits and how they cope up with difficult decisions.
We have heard tales of couples splitting either before or after their weddings for short-sightedness on the imperfections of each other.
Some are even deluded into locking hands with people who they do not love anymore but are driven to oblige due to family and friends pressures. Not cool!
People can’t be manipulated into depressed and life-sucking perennial relationships because of some folks’ infatuation with weddings and fairy-tale festivities.
This week a local newspaper, the H-Metro, had it under its good authority that the Gweru-based Apostle Samuel Kaunda was left egg-faced when his fiancée Naume Mangwarira did not attend her wedding ceremony on Saturday.
The Glory House Ministries cleric was reportedly kept waiting together with the guests at the wedding venue for the greater part of the day as the bride failed to show up for the wedding in Masvingo last Saturday.
Naume, a member of Full Gospel Church, accused Kaunda of being abusive and violent that she refused to give false vows before a marriage officer.
No doubt, she always sensed that the man of the cloth has severe anger issues, but was eager to get married and have kids, so she said yes when he proposed, hoping she’d be able to help him grow out of his aggressive behaviour. So, the two were able to make headway progressives steps during the planning process—wedding related or otherwise.
But it was on what was understood to be their big day that she woke up to the sensibility of what she had already recognised: they were not a good match, and nothing could fix that. Not even a wedding or the cheerleaders. Especially not a wedding.
A Midlands State University student and daughter to one of the church elders, Naume is reported to have cancelled wedding steps several times before her relatives forced her to go ahead since the bride price was paid sometime in August this year.
Impeccable sources told H-Metro that Naume decided to remain at her parents’ home on the day.
“Naume akanyadzisa murume wake apa mufundisi. Akaramba kuenda kunochatiswa atopedza kuitwa manails and her hair (Naume humiliated her husband-to-be, and yet he is a pastor. She refused to go to be wedded after her nails and hair were done).
Her reason was that the pastor was very abusive and violent that she decided to wait until she finds another loving husband than sacrificing to start a home on such an unholy foundation.
“She threatened to humiliate everyone if they insisted on forcing her to get to the wedding venue. It is now the talk of the town and circulating on social media,”
said the source.
Thus, for engaged couples with a wedding on the horizon, it’s important to take stock of your relationship before, not after, you walk down the aisle.
Instead of spending all of your time and energy planning the wedding, think about investing some of those precious resources in your relationship ― particularly if you have doubts about whether you want to get into a lifelong partnership with the person you’re engaged to or otherwise.
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